In summary: things change and that’s not a bad thing.
In ‘Realisations, part two’ I want to talk about change, why it’s good and why it can feel so bad too.
I’ve recently realised how natural it is for things to change, but also how natural it is for us to greet these changes with negativity, scepticism and resistance.
The kind of change I’m talking about is, mostly, in mindset. Changing our minds. Deciding that one thing we used to enjoy, no longer serves us in the way it once did.
For example, for a while I have been feeling like I no longer want to keep up with my bullet journal. Rather than staying up to date with it, I’ll forget about it for a few days and then it becomes a chore to get back on track. This has been going on for a couple of months now, and I’ve journaled on and off for about 4 years.
I’m a bit of a perfectionist so I haven’t wanted to randomly stop journaling and have blank spaces on my pages, or stop the month half way through. But, as I’m writing this, that’s the state my journal is currently in and I’m not going back to it. That feels quite liberating but it shouldn’t be that much of a thing to celebrate; stopping something that we do not have to do, when we’re no longer fulfilled by it.
As someone that shares a lot of their life and thoughts online, I worry about making changes. Does it look embarrassing to people that I know and that follow me, if I decide that I no longer want to do something that I used to be so passionate about?
It begs the question, would we change our minds and pursue different things more frequently, if the online world didn’t see? It feels like there’s such a range of options, too many at times, but it’s a bit scary to try a few things in a short space of time out of fear of judgement.
We really shouldn’t feel that way, though. We should embrace whatever we’re wanting to try our hand at, without fear of what people might say. If you don’t try something, you’ll never know if you like it and you might miss out on finding your real passion in life.
So, next time you want to stop doing something, or embark on a new career path, just go for it (if it costs a lot, definitely think it over quite a bit and don’t waste your money on something you’ve not properly considered).
Do you change your mind a lot? Or do you get worried about what people might think?